Over the past few weeks, I have had more people pull me aside, stop by my house or call me up, asking me to help them sort out the complications in their lives; particularly with their intimate relationships. Although, I don't consider myself to be experienced enough to offer my friends the best advice or maybe even an opinion based on simple know-how, I do my best to illustrate that their complications can be easily simplified with the right mindset. I've learned that many people go into a relationship with a preconceived idea of the "perfect" mate - someone who possesses a particular interest or meets the physical description criteria, for example. Unfortunately, those people are incomplete. I have many friends like this, that go into a relationship sixty percent, searching to find her other forty percent; looking for another human being to complete her and account for anything she may be missing in her own life, and herein lies the greater dilemma. If that same person would instead go into a relationship one hundred percent satisfied with herself, this quandary would most likely not exist. Instead of searching for someone who possesses the rarities that she lacks, she would seek someone one hundred percent committed to himself and they could be complete together.
The truth is that I feel awkward when people consult me, even my closest friends. I never know what they want me to say. I don't have the most experiences and I definitely don't have the best experiences regarding most situations; especially relationships, but I do have my own experiences, opinions, and I am sincere when I do find something to say.
I'm not sure of the direction I originally intended to take with this rant, other than to say that I am content right now; I have found someone (or he found me) that is as confortable with himself as I am with myself (perhaps even more comfortable), and I think my satisfaction with this is something that my friends recognize. Maybe this is the reason they have been coming to me for advice recently.
I see a lot of unhappy people when I'm out with my friends lately and it makes me upset to see them so dispondent. It's beginning to make going out less and less interesting; it's beginning to make me consistently more anti-social. I wish that I could help them to work out all the problems they see in themselves, but I guess the only thing I can really do to help is to let them help themselves.